Sunday, April 10, 2011

Rejected

You can't help but feel a little rejected...

Applying for nearly 100 churches, and getting a rejection from 99 of them. It sounds like a parable:
"And it will be like that in the last days: there was a man who applied for one hundred jobs, and was not rejected by only one. Will he not take the one, and forget about the others?" 

Church is a funny thing. And I don't mean it like Chonda Pierce or Father Ted mean it. I mean "funny" as in "strange" or "confusing". It's "funny" to me because, even though I have more experience than I've ever had for any job, and more qualifications than I've ever had, I'm apparently virtually unemployable. I recounted my experience of being rejected for a part-time prayer counselor for CBN in an earlier post, and to sit along side that experience on my mantle filled with badges of indistinction are the following:

1. I've been making a point to sometimes ask why a church takes me out of the running for a position. One such correspondence was two sentences:  "We have a highly developed program. From your (video) clips I didn't feel like your guitar playing or singing are sufficient for you to come in and lead our program." I suppose you could say a lot of negative things about me, but this? Dude. I mean...DUDE! I respectfully disagree, sir.

2. A month after receiving a rejection e-mail from a church, I received another correspondence: news of who they did hire! So, after being told I wasn't good enough, I got to see who was. I don't think I've ever had any job I've applied for tell me who they hired, unless it was me. They always tell you if it's you, at least in my experience. :)

3. The litany of phrases that all say the same thing: you are not good enough for us, like the following:

"We are in the final stages of conversation with our top candidate."
And yet, through the miracle of the interwebs, your ad is still posted EVERYWHERE!

"Our needs are different from your gifts and abilities — and this is much more a statement about us than about you."
Yes, but what is that statement?

"We will no longer be considering you for this position."
But you were for a while, right? So that means I'm not a total loser. Right? RIGHT?

"The Lord is not leading us to consider you for the position that we are trying to fill."
Fair enough. Can't argue with God, I suppose.

So...yeah. Sometimes a guy needs to take a hint. I spent a lot of time in ministry being called "young", now I'm pretty sure I'm too old, at least for worship ministry. If I had just applied during that six week window when I was neither, I'd have the job of my dreams right now. That being, of course, fry cook...on the moon.


2 comments:

TheISAACdrummer said...

Wow, that's gotta be frustrating!...but as romans 8;28 says ALL things work for the good of them ....... (don't hate me...) so much of the religious system churchs are SO!!!! shallow ...please...lets have a short sermon , followed by a decent amount of prayers and then lets worship for about 45 minutes, and then have fellowship and a meal together, followed by some deep biblical teaching and discipleship... how long would it take to find a place like that?? ( besides my house )By faith I say that God is preparing a deeper place for you to fit your awesome unique ( thank God for spellcheck) abilities and calling. You should be rejecting most of them!!! change your frame. love ya bro. <3
I just realized that I am signed in as Issac the drummer cause he didn't sign out, but that too is good cause just think of what you have done in his life...no small thing....<3 Isaacs Dad here Randy.

Anonymous said...

I don't know if this will help you or not but most churches wouldn't think of hiring Jesus if He applied for a job today. I know what a good worship minister you are. You have so many God-given talents. I'm sure there is a church out there that God is going to send to. I know that it is difficult to wait. But patience is one of the fruits of the Spirit. Remember you are loved by many people who wish you were still using talents here. Love ya, your sister in Christ, Deb