I came across this blog:
Letters From Leavers
As in, letters from people who have left the church.
Sure, there's a bit of "I didn't get my way"-ism on this site, but, for the most part, the issues that the writers have are the flaws in the church that have frustrated me since I began in full-time ministry. Sadly, many of the writers have also left God, to which I say this: His followers are not Him. Idiots though we may be, we are not always great representatives of our Lord. This begs the question of God's existence for some, which makes sense. After all, if His people can't really get it together, is He really around?
The problem is that pastors and church leaders dismiss those questions out of hand. We shouldn't. Nor should we be confrontational or be "faith mechanics" and try to "fix" it. We should do what this ex-church (and ex-Christian) person suggests, and actually listen.
For me, the matter of confusion is simple: why can't the church just be the church? Why does it seem to be so hard? As I scanned the letters, I saw people talking about behavior that was like a church in a mash up with a Junior high school: cliques, back biting, power and popularity posturing, and integrity and compassion issues. I'm increasingly discouraged by the state of the church as it worms its way around explicit instruction from Jesus on how to treat each other. There always seems to be an excuse for why we don't have to do what Jesus said. Is that really something that you or I want to stay on board with? Should we be somewhat scared that this is not what walking the narrow path looks like?